Why is it that after a friend has a baby they seem to disappear of the face of the planet for a few years. Why are new mums always so tired? Do you feel rejected and that your friend doesn’t contact you as much? Do you worry that you may have lost her to that milk suckling selfish sleep depriving midget?
Probably. But it’s not for ever. Rest assured that your new mummy friend still loves you. She is just a little preoccupied right now. While being a parent is rewarding it is also bloody exhausting.
Next time you miss that friend, why not make the effort to visit her place instead of yours? Sometimes it’s just not practical or financially viable for new mums to ‘go out’ in the evenings. Why not be a saint and offer to fold her washing over a wine, she will repay you in fabulous baking. It may sound utterly lame but she will be forever grateful for this act of kindness.
And the best thing is… in a few years time you may find yourself being her. Alone, stressed and shattered while trying to face the challenges of becoming a new parent. You know she will be the first in line to return this favour. That’s what friends are for.